I’m not 100% sure on this one, but my guess is the “I don’t usually like this” part instead of “I like this because of the way you wrote it.” For some people, it feels like a judgement against something they like.
Other ideas?
I frickin LOVE these comments. While I can see how they could be taken negatively, I think this is one of the greatest compliments EVER. Not only did they read through an entire story of something they dont usually like, but your story was good enough that they decided to tell you that it was good enough to make them stay.
This is an interesting point. I write and draw, and I’ve gotten comments like this on both. In my experience, these comments have hurt more on my art, and not as much on the fic, and this may be part of why; someone who’s read a story has put time and effort into it, where it takes much less to look at a piece of art.
Some of it is tone as well, though. The fic comments tend more toward “I’d never thought of this ship before, but”, which is encouraging as a mostly-rarepair writer. Distressingly common on the art is more like “I hate this ship [sometimes with ‘I ship this thing instead’] but your art is pretty”, which makes me wonder if they’re just trying to get me to draw what they want instead, or why they decided to comment on this piece in particular when I’ve done other things more to their taste. I think in this case, look at the wording: does it seem like a compliment on something outside their normal, or does it seem like they just wanted to let you know that they didn’t like what you used your talent to write about?
I think a lot of the time people forget that on tumblr the original poster can see the tags/commentary on posts. I get tags and reblogs all the time that make me sad/disappointed/frustrated/annoyed and it’s because the person putting it there was talking to themselves or to their followers without realizing that I’m “eavesdropping” on the conversation.
In the case of art, they might be saying “I don’t ship this” when they reblog it because they don’t want their followers to think they ship it (for whatever reason), and they aren’t considering the feelings of the artist.
Not an excuse, but a possible explanation?
I FINALLY FIGURED IT OUT!
I was writing a post about how, when commenting, it is REALLY HARD for me to not do this. I couldn’t figure out why. You just say the positive parts of your experience!
What I think people are trying to say:
- I have feelings that are off topic. Let’s put them aside and talk about your great writing!
For me, commenting is about sharing my feelings. And feelings are hard to detangle.
I’m asexual-aromantic, and a lot of fic is centred around romance.
I don’t hate the romance, it’s just boring.
I often find myself reading around it – skimming the sexy scenes, the pining, the cuddling, the Feelings. I’ll enjoy the word play, the side characters, the romance stuff that’s closer to friendship.
When I go to comment, I have to sort those emotions. The easiest way is to write, “there were some emotions that weren’t pure joy, but I’m going to focus on all these other ones that were super positive!” To make sure the authour knew that it wasn’t anything to do with THEM, I’d frame it closer to, “romance isn’t my thing, but I loved all This Stuff!”
Without that little box to put the extra emotions, I have to spend a while sorting everything out. I have to PROCESS the little bits of disinterest, mild discomfort, confusion, feeling left out, etc. The outpouring of emotion has to be frozen and picked apart.
That’s what I try to do now, because the easy way wasn’t coming across as positively as I wanted it to. But it takes extra effort.
Going through previous comments I’ve made, here’s what I think I meant:
- “Trope isn’t my thing, but” – I’m not the target audience, and am enjoying for something other than the main plot.
- “I don’t read this fandom, but” – I was confused at times and feel I missed nuance that would make the story even better.
- “I have issues with Plot Element, but“ – Personal experiences make this thing uncomfortable to me, that’s my issue to work through later, let’s talk about happy stuff!
I don’t know precisely what people mean by, “I don’t ship X, but,” since I don’t really ship anything. It may have a similar meaning, though.








