Tag: icky kissing

Jubilee, Leia Organa, Kon-El, Cass Cain, and Edmund Pevensie?

angel-gidget:

Well, it’s no secret that I actually do ship Kon and Cass, but since it’s at least slightly canon, I’m guessing they don’t count.

Leia and Edmund though… ooh. Hmm. Just picturing these two on opposite sides of a diplomatic mission. I mean, they’d both want to be on the same side, and vanquish an unjust empire. But if you stuck them together, I picture a bit of rivals-to-friends-to-love birds trope going on.

Because diplomacy is a give and take in which you try to get as much concession from an ally that you can while making YOUR people sacrifice as little as possible. I can picture Edmund and Leia getting rather competitive about it, admiring how well each keeps their end of the deal, but simultaneously wincing about how many promises the other managed to squeeze out of them.

So I guess it’s less rivals and more “ruthlessly fair yet tentative allies” to “close comrades and fellow combatants” to “lovebirds”. There we go.

I can kind of see it!

Also, I remain convinced that Kon/Cass would have been great, if only their, “yeah, we’re better as friends,” hadn’t been SO PERFECT. They were so cute together! Natural bond! If only Kon wasn’t the least aro/ace character I’ve ever seen and I could have them friend-date.

lesbiangender:

wild idea here but… instead of pushing this idea that teenagers can’t be asexual bc they’re children and not wanting sex is normal, how about “if you identify as ace as a teenager but later realize you just didn’t want sex bc you were a kid and stop identifying that way, that’s okay” and realizing that doesn’t mean no one can know they’re asexual as a teenager and stop maybe telling asexual teenagers that they’re too young to be ace bc that’s really weird given that teenagers are cetainly capable of being non-asexual also you totally can’t decide something like that for someone else

Also, it’s not the not wanting sex that’s generally cluing us in to the fact that we’re different. It’s the CRUSHES everyone else gets. The attraction. The preoccupation.

My son’s in grade one and already talking about the girl he’s going to marry. When I was 21 I still struggled with how I was going to get the kids I wanted, because relationships were SO uninteresting.

(There are alloromantic aces and allosexual aros who do get crushes. I’m not saying this is universal. And sometimes people want other aspects of relationships other than the romance/sex.)

thegirlwiththepurpleguitar:

kedreeva:

Soulmates are not your ~other half~, that’s just nonsense. You are a whole person already, not half a person. A soulmate isn’t even inherently romantic. A soulmate is just the other sock in a matched set. You’re still a whole, complete sock on your own, you are perfectly functional paired with any other sock, it’s just that it’s even better when you match. A soulmate is literally just the person who makes your soul go “!!! Same hat!!!” and wave excitedly.

i love this

This is true, but I also put my hand out without looking, waiting for my husband to take an item out of it and put it on a shelf. I can’t make some decisions without his input, because they affect both of us. I’m not really asleep until he gets into bed 3 hours later. Sometimes we touch and I feel complete. We both step up in areas the other is weak in.

We’re ALSO separate people, and I can go away for a week and have a great time without him. 

OP is completely right.  But I have had the thought, “oh, THIS is why people call couples ‘soulmates,’ it really does feel like that.”

About a week ago, @alloverthegaf, was talking about how
confusing it was to want relationships, but also be turned off by them. I’ve
been thinking about that a lot.

I’m aromantic-asexual (don’t experience romantic or sexual
attraction). I’m not sure how much of that orientation is an essential part of
me, and how much is shaped by my experiences. In the same way, I’m not sure how
much akio/lithoromantism (feeling romantic feelings, but only in the abstract,
or if they aren’t reciprocated) is shaped by experiences. I don’t think it
really matters. All three labels might resonate with you, or maybe the feelings
associated with one (or more) are more like a trap you don’t want to define
you.

(Note: I compare identity and trauma here. If discussion of mental health and sexual/romantic identity together is upsetting to you, this might not be safe to read.)

Relationships have a lot of components. Discomfort or fear
can come different sources. Sometimes it can be helpful to examine your
emotions and feeling about these individual parts:

Friendship – Do you have trouble forming bonds with people? Don’t
really enjoy their company? Tend to drift away from people easily or often?

Trust – Is it hard for you to believe other people? Are you
always worried about what others think of you? How are you at being vulnerable?

Commitment – Are you comfortable making promises, being
relied on to help with long term goals, or being unable to change plans without
someone else’s input?

Physical proximity – do roommates drive you crazy? Does the
idea of having to share a bedroom, or see someone EVERY DAY, make you anxious?

Sex – Do you fear, or are you disgusted by sex? Are you
worried about being pressured into something you don’t want to be? Do you feel
sex is necessary for love?

Romance – Do romantic gestures confuse you? Are you uncomfortable
with poetry, flowers, and big emotional displays? Do you feel like you’re doing
relationship wrong if you don’t like anniversaries?

I found romance a huge turn-off, trust and commitment terrified
me, and I ended up being neutral about sex. So, I got counselling for the trust
and commitment issues, found a guy who didn’t understand romance either, and
muddled through the sex until I figured it out.

For me, ‘lithoromantic’
isn’t a label I wanted, even though the idea of a relationship being
reciprocated terrified me. It wasn’t really me, it was about fear.. ‘Aromantic’
and ‘asexual’ were me, though. They weren’t things that made me feel broken, or
came up in therapy when I dealt with my issues. Yes, I was pressured into sex
by a peer as a preteen. But having issues doesn’t mean everything about you is
a disorder. My asexuality was a part of me long before my trauma.

You have to figure out for yourself what parts of
relationship aren’t for you. Some people don’t want sex because of trauma, but desire
to get to a place where they can enjoy it. Others never want sex, but feel that
their terror at making promises is harming them. Maybe you can be comfortable
in a relationship, but only with separate living spaces and a great deal of patience
as you learn trust.

The important thing, I think, is to figure out the why of
your feelings. Then you can decide what to embrace, what to reluctantly accept,
and what you want to work to change.

Note: I am REALLY not saying that these identities are mental issues. What I’m trying to say that relationships are confusing and different orientations can make them even more so. Also, mental health issues are common, lots of us have them, and they affect every aspect of your life. Learn to understand yourself and make things a little easier.

 (Also, therapy is the best thing ever.)

itsgonnabeacoldwinter-soldier:

tuntematonkorppi:

thelittleblackfox:

tuntematonkorppi:

carlgauss:

image

…and in that moment we all wanted to be Scarlett

tbh it looks like bucky is taking a very drunk nat home

“fuck you, Barnes :hic: I’m not… I’m not… Hang on where’s Clint?”

: Steve, five paces behind them: “Barton quit hitting me, you’re not being kidnapped”

exactly.

@daenerystargaryensass

[Image shows Black Widow sitting sideways on Bucky’s shoulder, arms around his neck to strangle him. Or, given how relaxed Bucky looks, maybe she’s slumped over while he carries her home.

End ID.]

@thelittleblackfox I read that as, “Barton quit hitting on me, you’re not being kidnapped.” 

It made sense, this is Tumblr. Clint flirting badly to get out of kidnapping situations is pretty in character.

nightwingcouldyounot:

Welp they broke Robin. 

Which I mean is the job of older siblings and their partners after all. 

[Panel shows Babs and Dick in casual clothes, while Tim is in his early Robin costume.

Dick rubs the back of his neck sheepishly: That’s why I loved the Robin costume. You could spill stuff on the tunic and it never showed.

Babs hands him a can of pop: And the short pants were soooo hot.

Tim, shocked: glmmph!

End ID.]

jemyoshioka:

Chapter 15B – Crash & Care

Look after others, but look after yourself.

You can read more and see some of my character development here.

Or you can read it on Webtoons here

You guys! This webcomic is amazing!

All the characters seem so well developed – I can tell they have a lot of sides we haven’t seen yet, and I really want to know them better.

The art is gorgeous! The plot is engaging! The WORLD BUILDING! It’s good to get excited about something.

It IS all romance – this is a love story, and other characters are mostly just to further that romance, but the relationships are all so well developed that there’s enough to engage the aromantic and/or asexual reader. Or at least this particular one.

I didn’t expect to get so sucked in. I went for the cute art and I didn’t know how to use webtoon, but every chapter I was wishing I knew how to comment and gush at the authour.

glitter6ug:

taco-bell-rey:

straight dating: We have been talking for a few months and I think we are officially going out.

gays dating: this is Adam i met him 2 hours ago at H&M and he is the one 🙂

lesbians dating: we have been best friends for four years

Aro dating: you are my best friend in the world, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I’ve known you for years, kissing doesn’t sound terrible … could we skip dating and just get married?

I’m mostly linking to this fic in case @angel-gidget hasn’t read it yet. Well, also because I really liked it. It is all about the icky, icky kissing, but writing and character building is top notch. I love Wintersnight and their writing.

Anyways, have you read this yet, Gidge? I had trouble commenting, because everything I know about Miraculous Ladybug I learned through your blog. It’s all sweet and romantic and I don’t really get that but you do and maybe you’ll like it?