obvs there is something great about when a Big Scary turns into a Big Softie where Tiny Useless is concerned, but what i like better is:
Tiny Useless decides, with no prompting and for no apparent reason whatsoever, that Big Scary needs protecting. and if no one else will do it then this accidentally-gets-stepped-on, blows-away-in-a-stiff-breeze motherfucker is going to have to be the one to protect this living mountain of pain. you wanna get to this troll, you’re gonna have to go through this pixie. you try to come for this tibetan mastiff, this chihuahua’s gonna try to kick your ass first.
and the Big Scary is mostly just?? really confused???? there are at least twenty different reasons why this is fucking dumb. but also this feeble lil shit is the first person in the entire world to try and stand up for this person that absolutely does not need it. Big Scary continues to be huge and terrifying but now Tiny Useless has their undying loyalty and it will probably not end well for anyone.
i like seeing all of the ships this has been tagged with, but, i am going to be completely honest with you guys, when i wrote this i was thinking about little girls like my sister, who at the age of five had a strict ‘talk shit get hit’ policy about the incredible hulk
seeing a lot of folks with some weak-ass “but actually the tiny one is deadly and the big one is nice” tags and lemme tell ya
that is a different trope
do you think i picked the words Tiny Useless by accident. do you think there is no reason i called the Big Scary a mountain of pain?
not to get petty but this isn’t an idea about appearances being deceiving, or the amusement of reversing expectations, or the aesthetic.
this is about someone who can absolutely take whatever punishment the world throws at them, and probably throw plenty back, being told that their capacity for horror doesn’t mean they should have to endure it. someone who can’t defend themselves choosing to try to defend someone who can because to them there is no moral difference.
hogarth didn’t save the iron giant by punching a tank, my dudes. the iron giant didn’t have to be helpless to be worth protecting. you know what i mean?
Ever since I read a post on gender euphoria, I’ve been thinking. Because I’m not dysphoric anymore. Maybe I was as a teen, maybe not. But the thought of being genderqueer!
I see myself as a woman, but I love imagining myself as non-binary. The idea of being androgyne excites me. (I’m not sure I like the WORD but the idea appeals). Being between, or non. Being ‘they’ instead of ‘she’.
It’s possible I might be genderqueer. I don’t want to do anything about it. I’m happy being female and just thinking about it right now.
Tumblr is where I think about these things. So, yeah.
Is it fetishizing to write my autistic character using their partner/lover as like, a giant stim toy? Obviously their partner enjoys this a lot, so it’s mutually enjoyable for them, but I’m wondering if this is like, fetishizing or romantasizing autism and autistic people?
I think using one’s partner body to stim is very common in relationships when at least one person is autistic. I don’t think this is fetishizing, unless of course the partner is valued only for their use as a stim toy and not considered as a person by your character, but I think that’s pretty unlikely.
After all, even in relationships where both partners are neurotypical, people often use their partners to satisfy some of their needs, be they emotionnal, sensual or sexual. I don’t see why sensory needs should be treated any differently.
Just make sure to show their relationship as complete and revolving around more than the sensory aspects (if you want to portray a healthy relationship at least) and you should be alright!
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Some of the things I do to my husband amuse him, and some he just tolerates.
I love playing with his earlobes. I rub my hand up and down his arm to calm myself. I hug him and mush my head into his chest or arm. He likes this kind of stuff.
He’s less pleased about my desire to pop all his pimples. Or poke him over and over. Or nibble/bite his hands and arms when I’m antsy and stressed.
The important thing is consent. It’s his body, so I have to make sure it’s okay before I do things.
Hugging him or rubbing his arms is okay without asking, but I stop if he gently moves me away. The other things I need to ask first – or, more likely, I jerk away after starting without asking, apologize, and then ask.
If he says no I need to find other stims. Sometimes I ask him to put on a shirt (if I see pimples and they’re driving me crazy) or say I need some space to help me control my impulses. Because not stimming is hard.
Hello I’m 17 and am being kicked out of my home as soon as I’m 18 I’ve been trying to prepare my self for this and have estimated 7,350 dollars in my bank account I have no credit and my parents have repeatedly told me we are cutting you off and disowning me how fucked am I? Please any advice would be extremely helpful and very very appreciated
First of all- take a second to breathe. You are in a terrible situation, but you are strong and resilient and you have $7,000 in savings. You WILL get through this! Also you have more money than both my boyfriend and I put together currently, and we rent an apartment with 2 cats. You can do it!
I have a few questions for you-
1. Do you have a job?
2. Do you want to attend a university?
3. Are you opposed to living with roommates?
4. Do you have transportation?
My Parents Are Forcing Me To Move Out- What Can I Do?
I get a lot of questions about this. Here are some steps that you can take while still living in your parents house, steps that will help you work towards getting a place of your own. Stay strong! You’ll get through this.
1. Important Documents. Get as many of your important documents (social security card, birth certificate, tax forms, etc) as possible while you’re still living with your parents. You will need this information when you move out, and it may be harder for you to get these documents after you’ve moved out.
2. Get a job. If you’re still in school, limit yourself to a part-time job that can become a full-time job when you finish your education. You can’t save up money if you don’t have a job, and this will just force you to be dependent on your parents financially.
3. Get transportation. Get yourself a mode of transportation that does not rely on your parents. Biking, walking, and using public transportation are all ways that you can get where you need to be without their help. You cannot rely on any car that’s in their name (even if they call it “your” car). I’ve had multiple friends dealing with difficult parents have their cars taken away from them in an attempt to further control their lives.
4. Start saving money. Even if this just means saving $100 every two weeks, this is still a great start!
5. Separate bank account. Speaking of saving money, get yourself a bank account that your parents don’t have access to. A friend of mine tried to move out of her home and her parents literally moved all her money into their account because they had joint access. If you cannot get a separate bank account, start saving money in cash in a good hiding spot.
6. Start paying for your own devices. You do not want your parents to be able to threaten to take your phone away if they don’t like the choices you’re making. You should also change any passwords on devices that your parents may know.
7. Utilize resources that get you out of the house. There are lots of spaces that you can hang out after school for free, including public parks and libraries. Join clubs and volunteer your time if you can’t stand being home.
8. File as independent on your taxes. We’re a while away from tax season, but remember to file as independent on your taxes. This means that your parents can no longer claim you as a dependent and will no longer receive a tax break from the government for housing you. What it means for you, is that you will no longer be considered part of their tax bracket. This means you’ll have a better chance at applying for financial aid, health insurance, car insurance, etc.
9. Involve your college. If you’re looking to go to university sometime in the future but are afraid you can’t afford it, find out if your college has any programs for independent students. Many SUNY schools have what is called the EOP Program and the Independent Student Program, which will pay for your college tuition based off your independent tax status. You cannot rely entirely on FAFSA to pay for your tuition! Talk to a school counselor and find out what is offered. PS: Many of these programs are first-semester admit only, so take that into consideration.
10. Keep your housing search a secret. I hate to generalize with parenting, but if your parents are threatening to throw you out or are forcing you to move out, it’s probably not a good idea to let them know that you’re going to move out. Oddly enough, two of my friends who have been in this very same situation got ready to move out of their respective homes, only to have their parents freak out. Even if your parents are saying that they’re going to force you to move out, they may not believe that you actually can and will do it. They may try to stop you or use emotional tactics to control you and keep you home. When you do move out- do not under any circumstance tell them your address.
11. Build your support system. Tell as many trustworthy people as you can what is happening, so that they can be there to support you during this time. You’ll have places to crash in if you need to, so your parent’s house isn’t your only option. I would try to tell at least one “Adult” in your life- a teacher, a counselor, your employer, etc. Obviously you don’t want them talking to your parents, but they may be able to offer support and confidence.
12. Decide on an apartment budget. Decide what you can afford, based off of how much money you’re making. Find out if any of your friends are going to get their own place, and see if you can find a roommate. This will save you so much money and headache in the long run. If you can’t find a roommate and can’t afford an apartment, look into renting a room in a house or shared space.
13. Learn some life skills. Cooking, cleaning, sewing, basic repair, car maintenance, laundry, etc are all useful skills that you will need when you move out. Start mastering them now, and you’ll feel more confident when on your own.
14. Discount stores. Get familiar with shopping for yourself at discount stores. While shopping at the Dollar Store may not be ideal for you, I recommend that you buy all your starter groceries and household supplies there. Off-brand items will save you $$!
15. Make plans for pets. Do not leave your pets at your parent’s house. If you can’t move them into your new place, find a friend who can pet sit until you find a more comfortable situation. Do not let your parents hold your pets over your head as emotional leverage!
16. Be prepared to buy new furniture. Your parents may not allow you to take any furniture with you when you move. Be prepared to spend some money on things like mattresses, tables, cooking supplies, etc. Peruse local yard sales and bargain bins to see if you can scavenge any supplies. Hit up your friends and coworkers to see if they have any furniture/supplies they’re not using. Honestly this is how I got half of the furniture in my apartment.
17. Try to keep it positive. Throughout all of this, please remember that your parents do love you, even if they’re not expressing it in a positive way. Be above toxic behavior and any emotional bullying they may throw your way, and when you do move out try to let them know that you love them and hope they will support you. They may ignore you or refuse to talk to you for some time after you move out, and this is okay. They will eventually get to the point where they miss your contact, and you should be prepared for that opportunity to start fresh. I’ve known people whose relationship with their parents has improved 100% after they move out. Some personalities are just not meant to live together. Give them the time they need to adjust, and be proud of yourself for everything you’ve done!
I hope this helps!
This is one of the most important posts on Tumblr.
new ask meme: send me what class and race you’d think I’d be as a dnd character
one time while we were in the car andrew said “i basically think your gender is whatever robot body you would choose to have in a transhumanist future, but then again, that would make my gender a featureless floating orb” and i think about that a lot
sometimes ………….. books that are considered classics…………. are worse
I like to categorize them into “awful to read but important” and “what asshole thought anybody should look at this with their own two eyes”
(My Opinions)
“awful to read but important”
- Animal Farm
- Flowers for Algernon
“what asshole thought anybody should look at this with their own two eyes”
- Catcher In the Rye
- Of Mice and Men
- Grapes of Wrath
Gabrielle Kinney is doing to Laura exactly what Jubilee did to Logan.
They prevent their Wolverine from falling in the dark, they show them how, whatever happens, there is still a way to really LOVE and enjoy life. They show them that they deserve to be happy, to be loved.
I’d pay to see Jubilee meeting Gabby and the two making fun of their brooding Wolverines. Plus this would mean Shogo meeting Jonathan and that’s something I can’t wait to see.
drop whatever you’re doing right now and climb a tree
its pitch black outside, and freezing cold. I think ill climb a tree tomorrow
you climb that fuckin tree right now
I’ve literally never seen this post on my dash when it is not after dark and cold as balls. I’m beginning to think this is a conspiracy to get us eaten by some nocturnal tree demon.
everybody put in the tags at what time you saw this
I was on the subway today, and when the train got delayed, this little kid was like, “fuck,” and a literal chorus of grown-ups went: “HEY.”
let him say fuck
I was at a crossing once and a kid’s dad said ‘and we have to wait for the green man’ and the 30 people on this crossing all stood waiting for the green man just to prove to this kid that that’s what you do. I’ve never seen anyone wait for the green man on this crossing before you just go when its clear. But Everyone Waited.
kiragecko 